If you have recently separated or divorced, you may wonder about the best ways to co-parent your children. Parental separation is a significant event in a child’s life that can have damaging effects on their overall well-being. As such, parents often seek ways to make the transition from parents to co-parents as seamless as possible. In New York, various co-parenting arrangements are available to families. One method that can prove to be particularly beneficial for children is nesting. This arrangement involves the children remaining in the family home. At the same time, the parents take turns staying in the house to care for the children, rather than the children having to move to each parent’s respective homes for parenting time. A nesting arrangement can provide children with stability during these challenging times. If you believe nesting could work for your family and wish to enter into an agreement, you should connect with a proficient Nassau County Child Custody Lawyer who can help determine whether this co-parenting arrangement is the best choice. 

What is a Nesting Arrangement?

Nesting, also known as “bird-nesting,” is a shared arrangement in which children stay in the family home, and the parents move around them on a rotating basis, rather than the children having to split their time between two homes. Essentially, you and your ex will split your time between two residences according to an agreed-upon schedule. This is often used as a temporary measure until the divorce is finalized. Ultimately, this co-parenting arrangement aims to minimize the negative effects of divorce on children by having them stay in their family home. This allows children to maintain a sense of stability and continuity during a time of significant change. It also helps support children adjusting to their “new normal.”

When is Bird-nesting Not Appropriate?

When it comes to co-parenting arrangements, there is no one-size-fits-all approach. Co-parenting arrangements should always be considered on a case-by-case basis. Generally, a nesting agreement is appropriate for a low-conflict divorce where the separation is amicable. Nesting is only applicable when parents can effectively communicate and cooperate. While this arrangement has various benefits, including maintaining a sense of stability for the family, this arrangement is not suitable for everyone.

After a recent separation, it can be challenging for parents to put their negative emotions aside and work together to ensure their child’s best interests are met. There is a risk that parents will conflict as each party is sacrificing their own space. If you and your ex have a lot of conflict or struggle to see eye to eye, this arrangement may not be the best option for your situation, as it takes effective communication. This co-parenting arrangement can become expensive, especially if you each pay for short-term accommodations each week, like a hotel or apartment.

Before making a decision, it’s in your best interest to contact a knowledgeable lawyer from the Law Offices of Eyal Talassazan, P.C., who can help you determine whether a nesting or other co-parenting arrangement is right for your family.